A waste?

Someone made a post on a suicide grief forum I belong to and she talked of how she heard so many people say, “what a waste” in regards to her child’s suicide and how it made her feel bad because her child’s life was not a waste.

I agree with her thinking pertaining to her child’s life NOT being a waste.

How I feel though is this. I myself have often talked about what a waste it was in regards to my daughter’s suicide. But I am NOT talking about her life. Her life was filled with great things; she was wonderful, intelligent, gifted and caring and had a very bright future. But what I feel IS a waste is that she will no longer be here to continue that wonderful life. THAT is what I feel is a waste. Of course, her depression made her life NOT the wonderful life we always thought it was and I would not have her suffer for anything. But I would have loved to have tried to help her. Unfortunately, I did not get that chance. She made her choice, only it was the choice of a very depressed person, the wrong choice in a life filled with so many wonderful and right choices.

No, her life was not a waste at all. She made me so happy as she did all the lives she touched. But again I show you where her body lays, then the video that shows what was and what could have been, and finally, a video of hope, of which if I didn’t cling to, I could not live myself.



About gatito2

My name is Rhonda. I'm a registered nurse, for the last 20 years, that has not been able to work since the day I learned of my daughter's death by suicide 4-12-13. (She actually died 4-11-13 and her body was not found until the 12th) Me and my husband have been married for 32 years and he's a wonderful man. We grieve in different ways. He works, I write. This is my journey through this horrible land of losing a child..
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4 Responses to A waste?

  1. Carrie Lange says:

    No their lives were not a waste. People can be so insensitive. I never could figure out what happened to people’s brains when they start talking about suicide. I was also told Dan was burning in Hell, that I should be grateful he did it before we got married, that at least I didn’t get pregnant before he did it, as well as being asked what I did to him. hugs to you. 🙂


  2. gatito2 says:

    Oh those are terrible things people have said to you!


  3. soulmatelost says:

    To love and be loved could never be a waste. I think those making those insensitive comments could not possibly understand the pain it causes. Their love was and forever will be as ours will be for them.


  4. gatito2 says:

    You are so right.


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