To All Parents

To All Parents

By Edgar Guest

“I’ll lend you for a little time a child of mine” he said.
For you to love the while she lives and mourn for when she’s dead.
It may be six or seven years or twenty-two or three.
But will you, till I call her back, take care of her for me?
She’ll bring her charms to gladden you, and should her stay be brief.
You’ll have her lovely memories as solace for your grief.”

“I cannot promise she will stay, since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn.
I’ve looked the wide world over in my search for a teacher true.
And from the throngs that crowd life’s lanes, I have selected you.
Now will you give her all your love, nor think the labor vain.
Nor hate me when I come to call to take her back again?”

I fancy that I heard them say “Dear Lord thy will be done.”
For all the joy thy child shall bring, the risk of grief we’ll run.
We’ll shelter her with tenderness, we’ll love her while we may,
And for the happiness we’ve known, forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for her much sooner than we’ve planned.
We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand.


About gatito2

My name is Rhonda. I'm a registered nurse, for the last 20 years, that has not been able to work since the day I learned of my daughter's death by suicide 4-12-13. (She actually died 4-11-13 and her body was not found until the 12th) Me and my husband have been married for 32 years and he's a wonderful man. We grieve in different ways. He works, I write. This is my journey through this horrible land of losing a child..
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6 Responses to To All Parents

  1. Someone gave my gran this poem shortly after my aunt was killed. She still remembers it.
    Haven’t spoken to you in a while, but I have been thinking of you.


  2. gatito2 says:

    Thank you. You know though……I really wasn’t ready to give her back.


  3. I know 😦 I wish it wasn’t like this. Hugs.


  4. Of course everyone has to die eventually. But it will never make sense that a healthy young person doesn’t get the chance to live a full and long life. She may have had a form of depression, but it could have been treated, just as physical illnesses are managed.

    It is truly a tragedy that young lives are wasted due to stigma and lack of routine mental health care. If our mental health were treated as routinely as our visits to the dentist, problems could be discovered and handled long before they developed into crises. Instead, young people keep their feelings and problems a secret and don’t even understand that there is help available.


  5. gatito2 says:

    I agree with everything you just said, and mingled into my grief, that is the theme of my entire blog. The stigma of mental health problems that prevents people from getting help is senseless. I’m mad, (not at her though I wish she had gotten help), I’m confused, I’m hurt, my heart is broken, my life feels ruined, and I could go on and on and on. But just once and awhile, just once in awhile, I quit being mad at God and the reason why my daughter died just long enough to try to accept her being taken back. I love this poem that was sent to me just after Kaitlyn died along with so much more material in a big box from a woman that had lost her daughter years ago. I was going through it again the other day and found it and thought it worth putting here. I didn’t want her to go, I wasn’t ready to give her back, and I don’t really think it was meant to be. If you only knew what was lost, but I try to convey that on my blog. She was my bright shining star. I always thought God entrusted her to me to love and take care of until she was ready to make her way in the world far away from me. But I was NOT prepared to let her go this far.


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